By Ceara Sturgis

Ceara Sturgis
When graduating senior Ceara Sturgis chose to wear a tuxedo for her senior yearbook photo, rather than the drape typically reserved for girls, her school responded by excluding her entirely from the senior portrait section of the yearbook. The ACLU represented Ceara in a sex discrimination lawsuit against her school district.
Let me explain. I’m a graduate of Wesson Attendance Center Class of 2010. I loved my high school. I had great friends, I got good grades, I played soccer and was in the band, and I got along well with my teachers. I stayed out of trouble. My high school experience was pretty unremarkable, actually, until it came time for senior year portraits.
I’ve never been what you’d call a girly-girl. I feel uncomfortable in dresses and am much happier wearing T-shirts and khaki shorts. I always find clothes that I like in the boys’ section, rather than the girls’. But this was never an issue at school at all. Nobody ever made me feel weird or like an outcast. I was just Ceara.
For senior portraits, the school said that boys must wear a tuxedo and girls must wear a drape that made them look like they’re wearing a dress. I tried on the drape, but I just felt so uncomfortable. Imagine forcing a typical “jock” guy to wear a ball gown, and have that be the defining image of him in his high school years forever. That’s how I felt wearing the drape. It was humiliating to me to pretend to be something I wasn’t.
I really wanted to wear a tuxedo. No one flipping through the yearbook would notice anything amiss…I would blend right in with the other kids in formal wear. So we took the picture that way, and I even checked with the superintendent to make sure it was okay. He said it was, though the school board still threatened to not print the picture.
I tried to reason with school officials throughout the year, but when we got our yearbooks that spring, I was crushed to see that not only was my senior portrait removed from the yearbook, but my name wasn’t even in the senior section as “not pictured.” It was as though I didn’t exist in my senior class.
I didn’t want to pick a fight with my school, but what they did wasn’t fair. So, with the help of the American Civil Liberties Union, I filed a discrimination lawsuit against the school. This week, the school agreed to change its policy so that all students will be wearing the same cap and gown in their portraits. What’s more, they’ve agreed to change their anti-discrimination policy to emphasize that everyone has the right to equal protection under the Constitution.
Public schools should never make a student feel like an outcast just for being who they are. LGBT kids and gender-nonconforming kids deserve to feel welcomed and safe in school. The yearbook is a significant rite of passage. Anyone who’s been to high school can relate to the excitement of cracking the spine for the first time and flipping to see their picture. The yearbook is a keepsake to be treasured with family and friends, so your kids and grandkids and nieces and nephews can see what you were like when you were their age.
Schools have a duty to treat all of their students equally. I’m glad we reached a resolution so nobody will ever have to go through what I went through again. And that, to me, is very much worth the trouble.



31 Comments

Well done. You were right to stand up for yourself. It takes a lot of courage to do that. I wish you the best in your life, and I suspect you will do well, and go far, since you are clearly not afraid to do what is needed to win through.
You dared to question their authoritah.
Good for you.
Congrats on sticking to your guns. BTW, you look great in a tux.
Kellia
The school board should have been ordered to reprint the yearbooks with your beautiful picture included.
IMO they’ve made a insincere decision meant to cast you as the villain who forced everyone to wear the cap and gown rather than allow people to understand that you are the hero who fought for everyone’s right to dress as they prefer.
Recommended!
I know it is not at all the same as having your picture in your yearbook, but this post, with your picture included, will be forever on the Internet to remind you and others of your courageous stand against discrimination.
All the best to you and welcome to FDL.
Recommended.
True courage exemplified! Well done, Ceara!
Another brave High School girl standing her ground! ( ref. Emma Sullivan of my home state Kansas )
There otta be a national award for standing up against stupidity. :)
I hope you sue their ass off….and don’t let anyone talk you out of it! Crap like this has got to stop and I am proud of you for standing your ground.
I can’t believe there are still schools doing the drape/tux thing.
I thought most places moved to a casual shot or dress of your choice years ago.
Why is it called an “Attendance Center”? Have they given up the pretext of education entirely and dropped the word ‘school’? I’ve never seen that wording anywhere.
My thought as well.
I applaud your courage and determination. You have probably helped hundreds of young people to stand up.
Wesson is in Mississippi. I’m surprised it was just a tux and not a confederate uniform
They should have made the school reprint the books and send one to every student with an explanation about why their reaction was wrong to begin with. It’s only fitting, as I am sure they would have made a student write an apology letter if it was the other way around. And signed by each of the school board who made the wrong decision in the first place.
You are a hero for standing up for who you are and resisting pressure from authority figures attempting to put you in a box.
Takes courage to do that.
Many blessings to you.
You go, Ceara! What you did took courage and I’m sure you were under tremendous pressure. I’m sure your story and courage will help and inspire others in similar situations.
I’m sorry you’ve had to endure all of this. It should not happen to any young person.
“Adults” quite often reveal their lack of qualifications for the respect they assume to deserve.
And here. Welcome. Your example will help us all have more courage to confront injustice. Thank you, and recommended.
1) Is she LGBT? It’s not clear, to me anyways. If THIS is the issue, it should be front and center. I’d support it, fully.
2) WTF IS it with asshats and fuckwhads who think they can control what someone wears to the Grad Pic shoot for Senior Year Of Hi School? This crap did NOT happen in my time, many pics were long haired hippies in their regallia . . . . dudes were kewl and chicks were hot in hippie garb.
3) I tire of this stuff, when do we snuff this shit out fully, at it’s source?
Harumph.
With a name like Ceara she?/he? never stood a chance.
Ceara,
You are my hero!
Don’t stop standing up to authority if it takes your rights away.
You are the power standing up to TRUTH!
I’m sure the whole ordeal was exhausting and you are a trooper for seeing it through to this point.
We are all beholding to you for your effort.
May you have a long and interesting life.
SORRY!
I meant
You are TRUTH standing up to power.
I think the school should have to reprint and redistribute the yearbook with Ceara’s photo included.
What a brave youngster! Kudos.
I’m sure Ceara didn’t choose her name. I think it’s a lovely name.
Interesting to hear 1950s sex discrimination standards still survive in some places. Heaven forfend what they may have been serving up as career guidance. Yes, it’s true. Teaching school, nursing and library science are not your only career choices :-)
Congratulations for acting on this Ceara (and knowing to go to the ACLU).. I expect the experience will serve you well in the future.
Well done, Ceara!
Rec;d
This is not for the subject of this story, but rather directed to the ACLU. I have been wondering why the ACLU is so silent about the treatment of protesters at Occupy LA (and really, everywhere). I just don’t know what to think. The abuses that happened in LA are horrific. I have done numerous searches to find a quote. I know they provided legal help, but it appears there is no move to address the problems with the city. I mean, ACLU is already investigating the jails where this stuff happened. And they already know the jails are hellholes.
Another thing–someone on the ACLU blog wrote about how the Los Angeles Times has “joined the battle” against the Defense Authorization Act passed last week. But looking at the LA Times stories, the actual wording, suggests quite the opposite–that and the lack of substantive questioning of the constitutionality of the bill. In fact, the LA Times said it was the “opinion” of unnamed “civil libertarians” that the bill violates the contitution..because of indefinite detention of TERROR suspects. No mention that American citizens WILL be inclued.
That is not support and what is going on at the ACLU?
For you who wrote this story, bravo, and I’m sorry to be off topic here. But I can’t seem to find answers. You look awesome in the tux by the way. ;)
Ceara Sturgis is not a Troublemaker – :-) No, you are not a Troublemaker.
But you have found out that there are idiots in this world that will make trouble for you for no reasonable reason – and that the world is not fair – rough lessons to absorb – but ones than need to be learned.
But take pride in the fact you are really a sharp person – and have already succeeded in something life at your young age. You had the initiative to involve the American Civil Liberties Union in a discrimination lawsuit against the school, and you won. If anything ever indicated that a young person was a leader of the future, this did so.
You have a lot to be proud of – and I feel a bit sad about my own “not a troublemaker” high school years that did not show anyone that I had your kind of potential. You are going to do well, and I support both your cause and your activism.
Thanks for posting an uplifting report on what can be accomplished!
:-)
Congrats Ceara,
Thanks for dragging Mississippi out of the past, kicking and screaming sure, but still, here they are with everybody else, getting use the way things are. You can’t unbreed the inbred but you can teach them a lesson.