Our family will always remember this holiday season as the time Sugar died. Sugar was a mixed breed, mostly lab/border-collie type. She exhibited the best character traits of every gene she carried and seemed to bear none of any breed’s drawbacks. She was a real credit to her species.
A member of my daughter’s household, Sugar was one of my “grand dogs,” for whom it was my privilege to dog-sit if her parents went somewhere she was not welcome. Those unwelcome places were few and far between because Sugar met love and enthusiasm everywhere she went. Friends would vie for the chance to keep her when her parents left town. But, I’m proud to say, my daughter believed I was her favorite sitter, so I always got first dibs on her company.
She lived a long time — almost 16 years — as her humans’ constant companion. Sugar was an enthusiastic participant in daily life, hikes, camping excursions and road trips. She accompanied my daughter to work at a neighborhood art gallery, hanging out on her bed and greeting patrons with gentle good will. She never forgot a face, and offered a smile and nudge of the nose to those she knew. She waited patiently outside restaurants and stores until her people reappeared, came to church and dozed in the corner during choir practice. Of course she attended social and family gatherings, and her birthday celebration was not to be missed as the highlight of the barbecue season.
During her long life Sugar taught us about living well. She taught us about playing and having fun. She taught us the importance of relationships and acknowledging our loved ones in small ways, each day. She taught loyalty and how to abide, steadfast during hard times. In the end, she taught about dying well, too.
Over the past few years deafness, poor vision and a variety of ailments slowed Sugar down and took their toll. Hip degeneration, leg weakness, recurrent bladder infections, a variety of benign tumors, stomach ailments — all these and more called forth the best in veterinary medicine. When her appetite diminished and she lost 15 percent of her body weight, we hoped the prescribed steroids would perk her up and renew her zest for life.
It was not to be. Sugar took to her bed, stopped eating and drinking, and withdrew from communal interaction. My daughter sent out word that Sugar was dying and the time had come, for those who wished, to stop by and say goodbye. Many, many did. For two days a steady stream of visitors came to Sugar’s bedside, told her how they loved her and shed a tear. Sugar acknowledged them with a weak tail wag, but continued her separation from this world.
One last time they brought her to the Oregon coast, her favorite place and what would be her burial ground. In the same cabin where she rested after so many joyful afternoons chasing balls and sticks in the surf, she spent a quiet night and drew her last breath.
As intentional and gracious as she was in living, so she was in dying. Instead of going off to a hiding place in the woods, Sugar let us witness, share and learn from the natural ending to a life complete. That’s how generous was her big, big heart.



8 Comments

What a wonderful diary. I am in the process of saying good-bye to my 16 year old dachsie. She’s senile now and needs a lot of attention. But she still loves to eat and rest on my lap. Her cat brothers look out for her and so will I–until the end.
I’m sorry for the loss of the little furry. Sad to say I have been through it many times. It is always hard, but my life and the life of my family is always better for their love and the lessons we learn from them. Thanks for sharing.
So sad, yet to inevitable, and then again, so beautiful. No dry eyes here.
(((BCL)))
Sugar sounds like she was just a really good girl with a beautiful soul. I’m sorry for your loss.
My girl Aja died Friday at 13 years. I was very lucky that she was pretty healthy up to a few hours before she passed.
I totally empathize.
(((Group hug)))
My heart goes out to you – I totally empathize and sympathize.
I love dogs, and hate the death of my four legged friends. Yours is a beautiful post. Each time one of mine died all I could do was cry for a few hours and then set up an emotional wall toward to world for next few months/years, in just about the same reaction I had to my parents deaths and the death of a child. It is hard for me to let go, but I keep acquiring dogs as I value the companionship so highly.
Now I fear for how my current friends will live after I and my wife have passed.
I think I’ll go and hug my friends now, and then go to bed as he and she “protect” me and the wife.