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Maturity: Maturity is a psychological term used to indicate how a person responds to the circumstances or environment in an appropriate manner. This response is generally learned rather than instinctive, and is not determined by one’s age. Maturity also encompasses being aware of the correct time and place to behave and knowing when to act appropriately, according to the situation and the culture of the society one lives in.[1]
“We have just witnessed an historic event,” he said.
“What do you mean?”
“North American civilization’s return to the Neolithic Age.” “I don’t think it’s funny,” Lib said. “I didn’t like the way you spoke to Ben Franklin. It was brutal.”
“In the Neolithic,” Randy said, “a boy either grows up fast or he doesn’t grow up at all.” Alas, Babylon
In nearly every civilization there was some ritual or task or series of tasks a young boy had to perform before entering adulthood and the benefits and responsibilities that went with it. Most of the Native American tribes had them. Even now there are still societies that have these traditions, though mostly ceremonial. But even before that, a young boy was to accompany the men on their hunting and food gathering and was taught the skills necessary as well as the life lessons. Young girls were no different in that they were expected to learn the tasks necessary as well. Both given more and more responsibility.
When our societies were more agrarian, the children were expected to help and work on the farms and ranches. In none of these situations were they protected from the – sometimes cruel – realities of life. But taught how to deal with each one as they grew. The young were expected through all of this to learn responsibility and gain emotional strength and courage as well as humility and compassion, learn what personal sacrifice really means. That everyone has a part and task to perform and each one is important to the group as a whole regardless of what they do.
And from WWII on compulsory military service also performed some of this. Instilling group effort and humility and responsibility. Only the very rich and well connected got out of the draft. Oh you could get a student deferment if you were in college but that only lasted while you were in college.
But all these things built character and personality and if you survived, wisdom and experience.
We have managed over time to remove a good deal of this. Most young people have never experienced the death of a sibling or close friend from a childhood disease or some other reason. Or witness the effects of war or some other catastrophe. Amuse themselves without some tech toy or another. We have generations now that have been coddled and protected and pampered out of life.
These are not things you can acquire from books of the internet or school rooms. There is no university that offers a degree life. Each one has to experience life them selves.
Is it any wonder that those who we have for leaders and representatives are lacking in some -if not most – of these qualities ? After all they come from the general population and the general population are also lacking.



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This is why we have nothing to fear from China. The one child per couple policy, while absolutely necessary from the time it was implemented to the present, has created a couple of generations of spoiled brats.
Sooner or later, spoiled brats do foolish things that cost them everything.
Our so-called leaders, PTB, whatever, are mostly no different. They screw up all the time.
And they’re not that smart.
Recc’d, though I bet there’s more than a few here who will be most offended.
Oh I’m sure they will. Not that it concerns me much.
Oh and I have been saying this for a long time. The reason we have spoiled brats like Romney and Ryan and their ilk is because we have been raising spoiled brats.
And the reason we have insensitive and clueless democrats is because we have been raising insensitive and clueless people.
What goes around comes around. You reap what you sow.
Geez, most of my contemporaries left the parental domicile before 20 yrs of age, have been hacking it financially and emotionally ever since. Would that work out to ‘spoiled’?
Being a girl, I was not personally affected by the draft. So, does that mean that I am not as mature as my brothers, friends and classmates who were drafted and who killed? Obviously, I cannot get final survey results from the ones who died. What about my brothers, friends and classmates who were conscientious objectors, was their emotional growth stunted? I think you are going somewhere with this, and I think it is a place e need to go, but the road is not right; Can you pls reconsider?
Madam, I cannot subscribe to your
Geez, most of my contemporaries left the parental domicile before 20 yrs of age, have been hacking it financially and emotionally ever since. Would that work out to ‘spoiled’?
Being a girl, I was not personally affected by the draft. So, does that mean that I am not as mature as my brothers, friends and classmates who were drafted and/or killed? Obviously, I cannot get final survey results from the ones who died. What about my brothers, friends and classmates who were conscientious objectors, was their emotional growth stunted? I think you are going somewhere with this, and I think it is a place we need to go, but the road is not right. Can you pls reconsider?
First I am not a madam. Secondly I am not promoting or condemning the draft here. Just giving some explanations.
But your reaction is not unexpected. In fact I would have been disappointed if otherwise.
That is all.
I just wonder if we as a culture have not thrown out the baby with the bath water will all the protectiveness and over indulging that has been done.
Some of the nicest well adjusted people I have know came from backgrounds where they were NOT born with silver spoons in their mouths and dishwashers to keep them clean and sanitary. Who were not protected from lives unpleasantness. These were also the most creative and imaginative people I have known.
And those with the lousiest attitudes and the most self centered people I have know came from backgrounds that were indulged and coddled and constantly protected. Seemingly acquiring the belief that they deserved to be treated special all the time.
the artice is interesting food for thought! If a person has never had to worry about food,a place to live, health care and so on and has had things handed to him or her they are not likely to feel for someone who has had to worry/stugggle. Add to this a person’s own life experiences and you never know what that perosn will end up being. I think of FDR and how he transformaed himself coming from high end of the society yet saw clearly the poor/working poor and midlle classes needed help. It makes no difference what his motives were (at least to me)just he saw a problem and worked to fix those problems for the betterment of the many over the few.
People like Romney and Obama seem to not even know there is a problem (I think they do know it) and are unwilling to even try and fix anything. The only thing they seem to care about is how they can serve the interest of the few over the interest of the many. You would think Obama would know what it is like to be downtrodden given his background but he does not.
It is not so much emotional spoiling as it is lack of parental guidance due to the focus on material gains. Material goods and the experiences granted by “having things” are valued over personal contact, experience, shared wisdom and guidance. At least, IMHO, the lack of parental time and focus on children has done more to contribute to the downfall of society than spoiling children with things.
Good point.
Actually it was Elinor more than FDR himself. She was the one who went out among the people and reported back to him.
You are painting with a very wide brush. I can assure you, for example, that our immigrant population doesn’t fit your description of the coddled. I teach English to adults, and in one class a husband and wife bring their four-year old son with them. He sits between them for three hours and never disrupts or demands anything. That patience is typical of what we see in the children of our students. I teach students in their late 40s or 50s who are the oldest members in their families: they have witnessed way too much loss. We have quite a few students from Iraq and Kurdistan: most of us may not have suffered from the war we began there, but they did. Almost all our students work at physically demanding jobs with difficult hours (my class ends at 9:30 PM and two students go directly to work afterwards). One woman is thrilled that she was able to leave a housekeeping job at a local resort (where one week she celebrated having made $50 in tips) and begin working in the deli department at a big-box store, where she finds the hardest part putting raw chickens on big skewers. Teaching these adults protects me from the despair you feel; they may well be our saving grace.
Wisdom never was the product of a rite of passage. Some examples. Grew up on a farm, went though West Point, was in a war–William Westmoreland. George McClellan.
Wisdom was always the product of a long practice in the skills of reflection. And even then it was hit-and-miss.
What we have is not a society devoid of the wise, the mature, and the sage, but a “meritocracy” that selects toadies and weeds out the wise, the mature, and the sage.
George Carlin got it right:
If you raise spoiled brats in the country, you will get spoiled brats running it.