This is an expanded comment I made to Attaturk’s 5/4/09 morning column:
http://firedoglake.com/2009/05/04/they-anticipated-for-once-but-they-didnt-really-care/
Thanks for focusing once again on the natural yet always unholy double standard the U.S. employs internationally. Our leadership will cherry pick “human rights violations” when convenient and even go as far as whip up a little war in their name. Bestowing a secure democracy was the overt public relations objective that began the Iraq War. On the other hand, Siun wrote Sunday about Israel gearing up for more attacks on Gaza. Is it time for even the “change we can believe in” new U.S. administrator to put an ostrich head into the sand?
The issue of torture, its prevalence and apparent seductiveness, is profound and chilling. Morality and ethics in terms of world governments, as well as our own, seem to be circling the bowl. And yet when I write on some websites at times about the desperate need for a “feminine” paradigm shift (meaning the classical yang (masculine) as opposed to yin (feminine) sensibility, competition vs. partnership), I rile up a lot of reverse sexism accusations. But I have to honestly say here, maybe the testosterone factor and the “boys can’t be sissies” testing for males growing up are something to be seriously and courageously addressed. In my generation upon toddlerhood girls had dolls thrust into their hands, boys had toy guns. Don’t you think that alone might begin to establish a foundation for an ultimately dangerous mind set in terms of imagining, romanticizing and being acclimated to violence?
Yes, Sarah Palin is poster girl for the alpha female in terms of “yang” energy. Aggression is a trait of some biological females. Passive aggression in many others, who find a more covert way to assert control. But I do think the patriarchal “power and competition” group-think is destroying the world. I think a “feminine”, or maybe a label more comfortable for men to hear, “humanist” paradigm shift to “partnership and cooperation” is the only hope of saving our world … and we need it soon. I look at Ellen Johnson-Sirleaf in Liberia and the recovery there. She gives me hope at a time when there is plenty to despair about.
Torture is the “heart of darkness”. Structuring sadism is evil — handing over physical scapegoats to let soldiers in the thrall of the group-think of a crazy-making administration project and inflict their rage and frustration or a just following orders zealousness onto convenient, demonized enemy punching bags. And to prosecute only the direct, late in the line agents of torture for culpability seems unfair, especially when the dysfunctional leadership (at times scapegoating the torturers as independently behaving “bad apples”) set them up. The top administration put them into a recklessly illegal, demoralizing, and psychologically disintegrating situation. On this issue, too, will we have one more accountability coma with the power elite safely exiting as the lower strata picks up the tab – in this case in the way of imprisonment and sanctions?
Was all this torture just clumsy yet elaborate and horrifying frat, secret society bad-boy scenarios gone exponentially amuck? I keep thinking of GW Bush’s wanting to “brand” frat pledges at Yale and to his chagrin being denied the tool of an actual branding iron, having to “settle” for hot coat hangers and cigarettes. (Yeah, thanks, Yale. That was a patriarchal negotiation. "Measured" branding, always a good idea.) Well, post-Yalie Bush certainly got his rocks off later with bigger game in a bigger game.
We, the U.S., are a civilized society that has studies from both Stanford and Yale, celebrated bastions of advanced education collecting "intelligence" re psychology. They have experimented and explained the potential for a “normal” human being to lose moral grounding and empathy from the ramped up manipulation of peer pressure and actions of amoral authority figures. Our military was already an environment that exploited peer pressure and indoctrinated fierce loyalty and obedience to its authorities. Ripe for such vile, secret, inhumane behaviors. The Lucifer Effect: Understanding How Good People Turn Evil by Philip Zimbardo explores this sad human phenomenon and how easily it can happen.
Thank goodness many citizens are protesting the immorality and illegality of the torture. Though horrifying, too, is a robust group of apologists and even advocates for it. Will we, like the proverbial boiled frogs, become as acclimated to the idea and statistics of it as we are too often to news of killings in wars around the globe, even of our own military? Structured killing with official targets for the kill (enemy soldiers, some more elusive as insurgents now) and the inadvertent targets of the kill, civilian casualties, all ages and both genders, euphemistically swept under the verbal carpet as “collateral damage.” Damage? These are human beings merged with the "non-human" in the word “damage”. That is callously telling right there.
Also, along with the inhumanity of torture being addressed right now, I am concerned about reports of sexual assaults on women in our own military. Another dimension to this ever-expanding heart of darkness. I heard Ann Jones, a humanitarian aid worker and reporter, on Air America’s Ring of Fire last week citing troubling statistics about assaults on women in the military. She asserted that though men tend to bond with each other in the military especially in combat, in her view, they don’t generally emotionally bond with their fellow women. In an article in the Smirking Chimp she calls the U.S. military “a macho club, proud of its long tradition of misogyny, and not about to give it up”. She cites a comment made by the infamous and unrepentant Timothy McVeigh who was a decorated veteran of the first Gulf War. McVeigh contended the military was where he learned to repress his emotions. He described his basic training as "long, exhausting marches" and "sound-offs [that] revolved around killing and mutilating the enemy or violent sex with women." “The two themes easily merge,” Jones noted in the article. She went on:
On March 17, 2009, the Pentagon reported 2,923 cases of sexual assault in the past year in the U.S. military, including a 25% increase in assaults reported by women serving in Iraq and Afghanistan, assaults committed by men who serve under the same flag. What’s more, the Pentagon estimated that perhaps 80% of such rapes go unreported.
http://www.smirkingchimp.com/thread/21056
Considering the vast scope of the torturing; the prevalence of sexual assault within our own military; the psychological wounding of our surviving soldiers and the consequential domestic violence attributed to that; rape as a prevalent and horrifying international tool of war for example in Zimbabwe and the Sudan; with the ascendancy of the Taliban that over the decades has driven women to suicide in order to escape its violently dehumanizing repression; I would venture to say "patriarchal" cultures based on power and control, with a macho spirit of win/lose competitiveness and upper-strata-self-aggrandizement, are not only profoundly inadequate in recognizing and enforcing human rights but too easily capable of violating human rights themselves.
We must explore the nightmare that is our country and our world. We need a "feminine" a/k/a "humanist" paradigm shift to partnership and cooperation. As the Monty Pythoners often quipped, “Nobody expects the Spanish Inquisition.” It came. And it turned out to be us!



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” Members of the April 3rd Movement marked their anniversary at Stanford University Sunday by calling for the school to sever its ties with Condoleezza Rice.
National Lawyers Guild President Marjorie Cohn and leader of the April 3rd Movement was at the demonstration.
“To have a professor as a tenured professor in the political science department of Stanford University who told lies to get us into an illegal war and who authorized torture, which is a war crime and violates our law,” Cohn said, “she has no place in the political science department at Stanford.” “
http://www.nbcbayarea.com/news…..-Rice.html
Thanks, bb, for the comment. Good for them! Condi and compnay using legalese babble to defend the indefensible, the immoral and illegal. It is about time Condi, et al., are being addressed for their sins. Doesn’t begin to undo what was done, though, does it? But truth to power … to keep on keeping on with that mandate.
Alas, only two comments since last night. This is basic, underlies so much grief.
You wrote “I rile up a lot of reverse sexism accusations.” I don’t think of you doing any ‘riling’, rather I think of sexism as a snake lying coiled ready to strike at any vibration.
Every day when I read the news it occurs to me that “women wouldn’t do that”.
You can append that comment to nearly , maybe all, of the daily bad news.
“Masculinism” must be questioned now. Your piece is an important challenge. We men must get behind it. Fear of gayness appears to be dimishing on the national scene, perhaps this is a time when males will dare to look at our macho indoctrinations in it’s various manifestations.
Thanks LL.
A most excellent post, libby, and deserving of far more attention, as joelmael suggests, than it has, as yet, received.
There needs to be a serious national debate as to whether America wishes to be a civil society, or a brutal, destructive force in the world.
Our hypocrisy is showing. In fact, hypocrisy is becoming, apparently, both domestically and internationally, our sole ‘attribute’, of late.
Whatever the traditional rulers of this nation, the American Political Cla$$ and America’s New Ari$tocracy may wish, change is coming …
(Assuming that “the people” of The United States of America may, eventually, find their conscience)
Joelmael and DW, I feel so heartened reading your comments. Thank you so much. DW, you always made me feel validated on this site and I thank you again. This diary was a comment that started out as a few sentences and wouldn’t stop. So I feel emboldened by your sensitivity and recognition.
I brought up the issue of a feminine paradigm shift a while ago on the Guardian commenting on an article about how women wouldn’t run the world the way men do (under a diff screen name) and I got so much reaction from the guys the points were lost. All the men as I recall were very defensive and angry and the debate among commenters deteriorated. You gift me more than you know.
I think free women need to start bonding with their sisters being oppressed. I remember being haunted by reports of Afghanistan professional women committing suicide because of the Taliban culture shock of reducing them to house arrest and burkas and God knows what, this was two decades ago … ashamed I am not even sure now, and I felt the tragedy but did nothing. Felt helpless and stayed helpless and pretty ignorant.
I was stunned to hear of the horrifying scope of rape in the Sudan and Zimbabwe and then later horrified to hear that after the wives are raped the women are shamed instead of comforted and their husbands abandon them. So they are traumatized and bereft of their husband’s support. It is not their fault but the women feel as much shame as the men. What kind of horrifying kool-aid are they drinking? How insanely unfair can you get? Blame the victim mentality on steroids.
I have never understood and been particularly horrified by the phenomenon of gang-rape. It is frightening concept of peer pressure and collective flash misogyny. And what of the phenomenon and profound pattern that boys who are molested have a much higher incidence of becoming molesters while girls molested are more likely to be abused again as adults.
Dorothy Dinnerstein wrote a book called the Mermaid and the Minotaur iirc about how the traditional women are the upbringers and men are away in the exotic work world and detached from children. Little girls get to learn about their role model, little boys are removed from theirs and must separate from their mommies to feel their identity … so reject her and women in general. They separate to embrace an identity. Women bond to embrace their identity. Have more access. The girls have a more reined in role thanks to mommies, but the boys have the insecurity of trying to cherry pick limited training from the aloof or missing daddies, and also that dreaded anti-gay message, you must not be like the “women”. I remember when I was little as was my brother and we were calling each other names like kids do and it went back and forth and I called him “queer” but at that age I just knew queer as odd, which is how my elders used it, and my brother slugged me and I flew across the room. The sudden rage and violence was stunning. And I thought, wow.. something more about that word.
I am not doing her book justice. Maybe I will track it down again. But it also explains how the anger of men does get triggered at the big controlling mommy since she is the agent of raising the child. I know things are changing, even due to baseline economic pressure to send women to work. Wonder what that is doing the balance or not?
Thanks, guys, … I am going on and on… but yes, it is time. I always throught the leaders of the women’s movement were fighting for the cause by masculinizing themselves and felt that was missing it entirely. Not celebrating the nature of the “yin” but wanting to prove women could go “yang”, too. Power and competition. And the power of women, like the women who helped stopped the violence in Ireland, and now in Liberia, recognized that it is about the partnership paradigm. There is a Colorado woman who set up beadsforlife and is saving an African community and Obama should hire her. She started out by helping one woman and it just began to flow.
Anyway.. you guys are inspiring to me. thanks. I’ll stop for now…
I am so sorry I neglected to mention in my diary that it was from reading Marion Woodman, a brilliant psychologist who addresses the nature of the female spirit and psyche particularly re women and food addiction, who profoundly inspired me with her discussions of the masculine v. feminine paradigms.