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  • And the video is up! MHP did Pam justice, methinks:


  • Nice to see you again, Petey! :)

  • Much love and much respect to you, Pam. While I’ll miss your voice on here, I absolutely honor your decision to take care of your health. You have done amazing work that has helped to change the world. I have learned a lot from you and from the other baristas, and the friendships and working relationships I’ve formed because of your blog have changed my life and helped create political change as well (hi Karen, Louise, and Laurel.) And I know that this is true for countless others as well. Thank you for sharing your gifts with all of us.

  • I’ve seen a number of media sources erroneously report that Portman is the first Republican US Senator to support marriage equality. Actually, then-Republican and then-Senator Lincoln Chafee supported it publicly as far back as 2006, and possibly even earlier than that (I’m actually pretty sure that he did express support earlier than that, but I don’t have documentation in front of me.) And Chafee doesn’t have any LGBT family members (I mean close ones–I am sure that we all have LGBT family members at some level of relation.) He is no longer a senator and is no longer a Republican, either. He’s now the independent governor of Rhode Island, and hopefully this will be the year that he signs RI’s marriage equality bill, which he supports strongly. Chafee left the Republican party mainly because of its hard-right shift, which left no room for moderates like him, and that fact is an interesting one to add to the current narrative.

  • DubNotDubya commented on the blog post “Welcome, Rhode Island, to Sodom’s Suburbs”

    2013-03-12 16:07:35View | Delete

    Oh, I just noticed a small error. The letter writer is from Rumford, not Rutland.

  • DubNotDubya commented on the blog post “Welcome, Rhode Island, to Sodom’s Suburbs”

    2013-03-12 14:45:32View | Delete

    Thanks, Laurel. And if anyone doubts that a paper would actually use that headline for a letter, here is a picture.

  • Rhode Island’s laws about putting questions on the ballot are completely different from those in Massachusetts. We don’t have voter initiative in RI. The only way to get a question onto the ballot is for it to pass both houses of the legislature, and that will not happen because openly gay House Speaker Gordon Fox would never allow this bill to come to a vote in the House. Even Senate President Terese Paiva Weed is not in favor of the Ciccone bill. The real purpose of Ciccone’s bill is to give cover to cowardly senators who don’t want to take a stand on the marriage equality bill, and to change the public conversation about the issue.

  • Rhode Island has completely different laws about putting questions on the ballot than MA has. There is no voter initiative in RI. Ciccone’s bill would have to pass both Houses to get on the ballot, and that won’t happen because House Speaker Gordon Fox would never allow it to be voted on in the House. Simple as that. And Senate President Teresa Paiva Weed even said that she doesn’t support Ciccone’s bill. It is in fact dead in the water. Its real purpose is to give cowardly senators some cover/middle ground to keep from having to take a stand on the marriage equality legislation and to change the public discussion.

  • DubNotDubya commented on the blog post Marriage Debate Ramping Up in Rhode Island Legislature

    2013-01-13 18:19:01View | Delete

    Thanks, Laurel. Interested folks can also follow Marriage Equality RI and Rhode Islanders United for Marriage on Facebook:



  • Excellent analysis, Pam. I’d like to add that we sometimes see a similar dynamic on a much smaller scale with the perception that members of certain ethnic groups are more homophobic than others (or than the “majority,” whatever that is supposed to be.) I live in Rhode Island, where we have a lot of different ethnic groups represented; and over the years I’ve heard people say that Italians, French-Canadians, Portuguese, Irish, Latinos and many other groups are more homophobic than others. Some of that perception is because many of those groups are traditionally Catholic, but some of it is attributed to the cultures outside of religion. But we have, and have had, many champions of LGBT equality in our legislature from all of those ethnic groups (and likewise black and Cape Verdean allies), a fact that is often ignored when pointed out. They also ignore that a number of our openly gay current and former legislators are Italian-American, and our openly gay House speaker is half Cape Verdean (black.)

  • It bears pointing out that in this day and age, no decent person would deny that the tweet was offensive if it instead said something like, “if a black dude is hyped about the white woman in the underwear ad, smack the ish out of him.” Right, Roland?

  • Good letter, but I think it would have been helpful to mention that the amendment would also shut the door to civil unions and any other recognition of same-sex relationships. Most low-information voters have not heard about that aspect, and they need to know. Thanks as always for your voice and witness, Pam.

  • DubNotDubya commented on the blog post NOM wants Newt to ‘save’ marriage? Hilarity ensues

    2012-01-22 17:40:22View | Delete

    Oh hey, I fixed it to reflect the change in the organization’s name and mission:

    Press Release: NOOM Congratulates Newt Gingrich on South Carolina Win
    January 21, 2012 at 8:21 pm

    Former Speaker of the House has signed NOOM’s Open Marriage Pledge

    WASHINGTON, D.C. — Brian Brown, the president of the National Organization for Open Marriage (NOOM) today congratulated GOP presidential contender Newt Gingrich on his victory in the South Carolina primary.

    “NOOM congratulates Newt Gingrich on his impressive come-from-behind victory in South Carolina.” said Brown. “We have had three different victors in state contests thus far — Rick Santorum in Iowa, Mitt Romney in New Hampshire and now Newt Gingrich in South Carolina. What all these states have in common is that they all have picked candidates who have histories demonstrating their acceptance of open marriage: Gingrich, through his request to his second wife and his welcoming of the nickname Swingrich; Santorum, through refusing to condemn his wife’s previous longterm unmarried sexual relationship, and through his protesting perhaps too much about gay relationships; and Romney, through his embrace of a religion which has historically supported polygamy. They are all winners and NOOM supports each of them.”

    Gingrich, Santorum and Romney have each signed NOOM’s Open Marriage Pledge, which commits signatories, if elected, to taking specific steps toward preserving the institution of marriage as the union between one man and multiple women. Rep. Ron Paul is the only remaining Republican presidential candidate not to have signed the pledge and not to have demonstrated any support of open marriage in his personal life, and he is not considered to have any realistic chance of becoming the Republican nominee.

    “It is now clear that the Republican Party will nominate a candidate who is strongly committed to preserving marriage as the union of one man and multiple women,” Brown said. “We have succeeded in making the preservation of open marriage a key issue in this race, and we will continue to do so throughout the primary season, and into the general election against President Obama, who, as his own marriage demonstrates, clearly supports only monogamous marriage.”

  • DubNotDubya commented on the blog post NOM wants Newt to ‘save’ marriage? Hilarity ensues

    2012-01-22 14:31:42View | Delete

    Perhaps we should now call it NOOM: National Organization for Open Marriage.

  • DubNotDubya commented on the blog post Civil Rights, Bathrooms, And The “Bathroom Bill” Meme

    2012-01-21 15:47:17View | Delete

    I like how Tennessee Equality Project flipped the “bathroom bill” meme into “Police the Potty,” thus pointing out how ridiculous (and expensive!) it would be to have an officer monitoring every bathroom to keep trans people out.

  • As a Rhode Islander, I want to echo this advice (with the additions from commenters here.) Last year, a lot of folks in the RI community thought that passing marriage equality was a done deal with a supportive governor and an openly gay House speaker. But we did not have the votes in the Senate, and a lot of people in the community were very naive and thought the Senate would just go along with the House. Instead, the lack of Senate support convinced some House members to turn against us (they didn’t want to go out on a limb when the Senate would just kill the bill), and the result was a civil unions law that no one wanted or wants.

  • I suggest that folks on our side who talk and write to the media about the proposal begin by phrasing it “ban civil unions” and then list marriage after that. The key is that there are many low-information voters who have no clue about that part of it, and you have to reach them at the beginning of the statement instead of burying it. Otherwise they will quit listening, and you’ll lose them.

  • DubNotDubya commented on the blog post Breaking: Barney Frank not running for re-election

    2011-11-28 20:26:22View | Delete

    Correction to the post: he came out voluntarily in a Boston Globe interview a few years before the Gobie scandal. He was not outed. You may have him mixed up with Gerry Studds, who was outed via a scandal.

  • DubNotDubya commented on the blog post The Issue Of Trans Military Service In The News

    2011-10-09 17:49:37View | Delete

    There was also a protest at Brown University aimed at stopping them from bringing ROTC back to campus. The local news coverage did mention the exclusion of trans folks:


  • Question that I would like to hear asked when someone claims teh gayz can change: would you be okay with your daughter marrying a man who said he used to be gay but isn’t anymore? Yes or no? *crickets*

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