• furthermore, I’d like to quote Denise Norris:

    “LGBT is not French, the T is not silent.”

    As I said on Facebook:

    “You can misgender me, you can threaten me with lawsuits, you can make fun of me. You won’t silence me and you won’t effect the work I’m doing. I will stand on principle. I will not sit down. I will not shut up. The more you try and hurt me, the stronger I become.”

  • I was verbally assaulted at The Transadvocate (I was mis-gendered) for what I wrote. I’ll say to you what I said to the person who verbally assaulted me (who is the Managing Editor at Baltimore OUTloud):

    “Dana LaRocca it’s irony of the highest order. I simply took what he said, which was “F-you, you tranny jerk!”, and turned it into “F-You, You Silly F*****!” to show that what he said was transphobic. NO ONE was talking about it in that light. Until Autumn Sandeen covered it at PHB earlier this evening, no one in the gay press had called him on his DEEPLY transphobic and hateful rhetoric besides me.

    My conviction is based on the words of Bayard Rustin, who said:

    ‘Our job is not to get those people who dislike us to love us. Nor was our aim in the civil rights movement to get prejudiced white people to love us. Our aim was to try to create the kind of America, legislatively, morally, and psychologically, such that even though some whites continued to hate us, they could not openly mainifest that hate. That’s our job today: to control the extent to which people can publicly manifest antigay sentiment.’

    My goal with Kelly Osborne, with Neil Patrick Harris, and with RuPaul was to create an environment where anti-transgender sentiment isn’t given a free pass. Where transphobia isn’t allowed to be ignored or goes unacknowledged. I feel like that though I’ve been castigated by some, my mission was a success. People are starting acknowledge what he said was transphobic and unacceptable.

    These discussions are VITAL because they regulate how acceptable anti-gay or anti-trans sentiment is publicly acceptable. And suggesting that we must only concentrate on legislation is myopic. We are a multifaceted community with a multifaceted agenda. We can walk and chew gum at the same time.