Today plaintiffs attorney Boutrous will continue his questioning of Professor Cott, who is testifying about the history of marriage in America and her book, Public Vows.
Judge Vaughn Walker has entered the courtroom. Attorney appearances will be by signin instead of the litany of podium statements. One other point: is the Attorney General’s lawyer here? All will please respond regarding same-sex marriage amendment’s constitutionality, and whether the AG should have taken a role in that determination. All will please respond by Thursday at 5pm.
Ms Cott, you are still under oath, you understand?
C: yes
B: Good morning, Professor Cott. I have conferred with defendant-intervenor’s attorney regarding exhibits and they have objection (presents list to clerk) I would like to present another statemtn from the opposing counsel’s opening statement, wrt its central purpose being procreation and channelling, naturally procreative sexual activity between men and women into stable enduring unions.
B: What is your opinion?
C: Procreation is A purpose but no means the central purpose. Reminded me of the story of the seven blind men and the elephant: each sees something different, trunk/snake; side/wall; tail/vine. Procreation in a stable union is A purpose, but from the STATE’s perpective marriage has more to do with establishing a HOUSEHOLD and all that implies about social order and governance.
B: How is marriage an instrument of goverrnance?
C: Historically, I mean the regulatory purpose of marriage. Men were heads of household, responsible economically for all parts of their household. Giving benefits implied the sovereign could politically govern his realm in discrete sub-units, HOUSEHOLDS.
B: From a historical perspective, what benefits have accrued, and have they only accrued to procreative marriages?
C: No, barrenness or sterility has never been a barrier to a marriage. The FATHER of our country, George Washington, was sterile, being in a marriage with a woman who had borne children in her previous marriage. This was actually seen as an ADVANTAGE, since he could not pass on his presidency to an heir.
B: What about children’s protection?
(Sorry — lost thread)
B: Talk about the legitimizing of chihldren through the marriage of parents?
C: The state lends its prestige to the marriage, and all the family’s participants, by validating all of them.
B: Here’s another statement from opposing counsel (reads pro-child statement re: marriage) IS that a correct and complete description of marriage?
C: No, its a very opartial description. I see no evidence that the state was MOST interested in the benefits mainly to the child. Creating stable and enduring unions, supporting one another whether of not they had children, as well as support other dependents: blended families were extremely common in the past, due to earlier death and subsequent remarriage. Families comprised step-children, neices and nephews with absent or dead parents, spinster aunts or single uncles, older parents.
B: Doe marriage today serve purposes other than those at our country’s founding.
C: Its purpsoe is rooted in tha past, but some purposes are more salient now than then.
B: Yesterday, we talked about marriage and slavery. Have marriage laws always given members of socity equally AND FAIRLY?
C: No they have not. Other restrictions come to mind: used as a mode of governance, in dynamic tension with the zone of liberty and privacy, which modern marriage has moved towards. Mosst plentiful restrictions in the past, 41 states and territories restricted marriage between white persons and persons of color. Not only so-called Negros and mulattos; also between whites and Indians. These multiplied after the civil war, since emancipated slaves could now marry by the state. In CA and other states in the west, due to in-migration from Asia, there were restrictions on Malays, Mongolians, CHinese, Japanese prohibited to marry whites. These did not prohibit whites OR Asians OR Indians from marrying, but it limited their PARTNERING, their CHOICE of partner.
B: How did legislators justify the fairness and legitimacy of these relationships?
C: Leg knew these relationships OCCURRED, they ust didn’t want to give them the imprimatur of the state.
B: How justified?
C: Filling God’s plan that the RACES NOT MIX, defended as being nature’s way, the order of things, obviously GOD’s plan, a HIGHER law.
B: Another exhibit from opposing counsel’s statement: Cooper declared that racial restrictions were NEVER a distinctive feature of marriage. True?
C: No, inaccurate.
B: Not limited to black & white, what particular restrictions on others?
C: Congress passed exclusionary immigration laws from Asia, but before the law passed there were at least 100,000 Chinese men and very few Chinese women here in the 1880s. State laws were passed preventing marriage of these men to white women. In 1907, the federal govt decided that if native born American women married aliens, they would LOSE their American citizenship. Here we had a restriction than entered POLICY if not marriage LAW. Women had to take her husband’s citizenship and lose her American citizens, even if she was descended from Mayflower stock. Since Chinese were ineligible aliens from ever becoming citizens, in the state of CA for instance. So a US woman who married a CHinese man, she could never become a citizen again unless he died or she was divorced. This was lifted in the 1920s — except that the extra punishment of women remained. Partially lifted for a small group in the 1930s and then fully lifted when CHina became our WW2 ally.
B: Marriage has usually been regulated by states. Was it unusual for the feds to weigh in wrt Chinese?
C: Through immigration law, they found they did not need to be circumspect. Women actually became stateless if they married an anti-Bolshevik Russian living in the US in 1919 — she was no longer a citizen of the US, and since her husband was a stateless refugee, she became one too.
B: So this came about through imigration?
C: Economic self-sufficiency was the key. When Social Security was passed, a marital ADVANTAGE was built-in, favoring married couples over single people or unmarried couples. Federal governemnt has used marriage as a CONDUIT for conveying advantage.
B: What parallels between restictions on race and restrictions on same-gnder marriages?
C: People do not have COMPLETE choice of who they marry, designating some groups as LESS THAN by their restrcited partner choice. The informal unions had LESS HONOR, LESS RESPECT.
B: At some point, the race restrictions were lefted? Were alarms sounded about how that threatened marriage?
C: These were state laws, there were cycles 1913 saw a lot of laws, and they recurred through US history. Even when SCOTUS in 1923 said marriage was a civil right, then in 1924 Virginia passed the most race-restricted in the nation. Called GOD’s PLAN, the natural law, the order of things. Because this was seen as such a hot-button issue, SCOTUS approached it extremely cautiously. THey could have taken a case in 1955, but they waited to decide a case in 1967 (Loving).
B: Did opponents of lifting these restirctions say marriage would be ruined?
C: Maybe not RUINED was used, but people thought and said their marriages would be less valued. The proportion of marriages across the color line grew to 2% quickly after Loving, and then tripled by the turn of the centry. A triping, yes, but not very many of all marriages.
B: Is rthere a term for the role the state plays in marriage?
C: Yes, it comes from common law, called coverture, describing marital roles and duties. Upon marriage, the wife was COVERED by the husband’s legal definition and economic personhood. Jane Doe became Mrs John Smith; she was really no longer Jane Doe.
B: How did states justify that?
C: this was the MARITAL BARGAIN to which both spouses consented. The husband’s obligation was to SUPPORT his wife and his dependents. Her part was to serve and obey, lend him all her property, give him all her earnings, he would represent her in court. Highly assymetrical bargain, one we see now as very unequal. BUt it was not Dominant/submissive, it was freely consented to by the couple, although THE STATE SET THE TERMS. Assymetricality had everything to do with the sex difference seen in household roles.
Women’s work in the household was extremenly important, by difference might be socially enforced.
b; Did the sexual division of labor explain the sexual difference in marital couples we’ve seen through history?
C: Yes, the sexes were seen as so UNSUITED to the same type of work, work was particular to the sexes. Both types of work were seen as very important to the survival of society, which is why the state endorsed them.
B: Did these divisions ever come to an end?
C: Yes, fully in the 1970s but earlier as society mechanized, the nature of work, the sexual division of laborbecame far less rigid. In the 20th century, in our era, the sexual division of labor became no longer applicable. Came to be seen as increasinly archaic, states and SCOTUS stepped out of assigning work roles by gender. This did not however reduce the bargain. Currentyl,spouses roles are gender neutral. Most are obligated to support one another, but the law recognizes that one spouse may be the most economic supportive.
B: Why is the change in gender roles applicable to same-sex marriages?
C: Work roles within a household when gender specific required two genders. But now, with work no longer seen as gender specific, individual couples can decide the symmetry of their own gender roles. No longer enforced by the state. The presence of a marriage by members of the same sex no longer vioilates the states interst inmarriage.
B: Overview, plesare of the objections and concerns about gender roles and coverture going away in the 19th century?
C: Yes, the primacy of the husband as primary protector was seen as essential to what marriage was. The assymetry was seen as essential. ONce women could own property the role of the coverture was threatened. Lots of assumptions the the model of marriage would nevertheless persist. But the suffragette movement, womens voting, andlater the womens movement, coverture seen as archaic. But there were ALARMS and RESISTANCE — it took a very very long time for the state to change all its laws to encompass the change. Becauee of SCOTUS in 1970s, without apparent damage to the institution, it has strengthened the institution of marriage.
B: What has been the trajectory of the stregth of marriage as laws have changed?
C: The definition and regulation of marriage by the states has moved toward symmetry and equality of the two partners, with fewer restrictions of the CHOICE of marital partners. Shift has been toward emphasizing the zone of privacy and intimacy, away from the prescriptions of the state about what should go on. Away from governance and toward LIBERTY.
B: How do those trends bear on whether same gender couples should be allowed to marry?
C: Leans toward the appropriateness of same-sex couples marrying. As roles are no longer expected to meet man/woman differences are no longer work-related; no longer a founding feature of marriage in our society. Other restirctions on choice of marital partner — where there has seemed to be constitutional restirctions, like race was seen — have fallen away while the state still enforces some partnership rules.
B: You’re aware of teh "damage" argument against same-sex marriage? Is there a basis for that? WIll divorce increase?
C: NO.
OBJECTION: IN DEPO, witness refused to answer that question, saying it was impossivble to answer.
B: It is in her report, and depo had an exam of her about divorce page 199. She was questioned and answered about divorce.
Walker: What pages?
Walker: Let’s hear the answer, you may renew your objection as a motion to strike.
C: IN my home state massaschusetts, which has same sex marriage, we have the lowest divorce rate in the union. And it has DECREASED in the five years since same sex marriage began there. [HA!!!]
B: Go back, please, to discuss consent in marriage.
C: Consent, in America, has presumed to be based on a LOVE MATCH, freely chosen, unlike elsewhere where marriages are arranged. This is a free choice based on love, to compose a family and make a household together>
B: Would same sex marriage inclued those defining characteristics of marriage?
C: Yes, it seems like the motives of same sex couples to marry, form households based on stable loving unions, for just the same reasons.
Esclusing same sex couples from this highly valued social institution, society is denied itself the value of stability and security provideed to the partners in the marriage.
B: No more questions.
Defendants attorney has binders to bring forward.
waiting on binders to be brought to the witness stand. [Wonder what;s in those binders???]
Townsend: You don’t consdier yourself an expert on marriage in other countries.
C: High bar for the word expert.
T: What about China and INdia?
C: Ive been there.
T: Please look at your Iowa case testimony, where asked about China or India
T: Can you say that you can predict the impact of same sex marriage?
C: No
T: what about ancient greece, expert?
C: NO
T: Are you a neutral party or an advocate for same sex marriage?
C: In between, a scholarly conclusion
T: (reads Iowa testimony, where she called her self "between"
T: Were you compensated for your work in other cases?
C: I volunteered my time because I think it’s an important civil rights issue.
T: Please look at page 13, to the annual report of the Alternative to MArriag organization, were you were listed as a DONOR. Was that you?
C: Possibly
T: Reads mission statement of organization, as advocate for persons who choose not to marry. DO you support that?
C: Yes
T: Polyamorous families are listed.
C: I had not heard that term until about a week ago, read an article in the Boston Globe about people in multiple stable relationships.
T: Reads dated info from annual report, where it discusses extending rights and benefits to polyamourous families. DId you suport that?
C: No, I knew the straight couple who started this organization to benefit straight couples who CHOSE not to marry. This young couple had been pressured to marry by their families, and didn’t want other to suffer that pressure.
T: Points out another Alternatives to Marriage binder page with her name on it.
C: Not in my binder
Walker: Not in mine either.
T: well, do you recall it?
C: Yes and I support it, all healthy families should be supported by society.
T: You think couples should keep a skeptical stance on marriage?
C: Maybe I have said that
\T: Please turn to Tab Three, an interview with Priscilla Gaiman, on the fourth page you said: I also say couples should keep a skeptical stance on marriage. DId you say an dbeleive that?
T: I never had the chance to review the interview before it went on the web. Can’t say whether I siad that.
T: Teh state is ALWAYS interested in seeing dependent children supported by their parents, yes?
C: Yes, very important.
T: One of its purposes has been to create stable familes in american history, yes>
C: Yes
Purppose of marriage to see chjildren raised by the bio parents, right?
C: no
T: Race restritions caused barriers to legal ties for illegiimate children, right?
C: NO, it created no ties, but not barriers
T: asks about race-based laws, when was the first
C: 1666, Chesapeake colony prohibted ‘shameful’ unions between white women and Negros.
T: Goes state by state, have they had laws prohibited interracial marriage?
C: I don’t know, state by state.
(COLLOQUY about making a speech, not now, but on redirect please)
T: So there was not consistent laws in all states?
C: No, not until 1967 when the SCOTUS overturned all state laws that were race-based.
T: (Tries to talk about marriages abroad, Walker calls him on it)
T: Marriage in America calls for puiblic affirmation, right?
C: Publicly witnessed, yes.
T: As courts consider whether to redifine marriage as no lnoger between man and women, isn’t this an explicit point.
C: Yes, it is.
T: Plays interview of Cott with NPR after Mass Court overturned same sex restrictions.
OBJECTION as to 20minute lenght, Walker says one step at a teim, lets see the relevant part you want to show to the witness.
Recording, she says it is an explicit point in the evolution of marriage, perhaps the most distinct change to marriage.
T: Is your recollection refreshed? Did you say that no other turning points were as important as this one, changing marriage so it’s same-sex?
C; Yes
T: Marriage is complex, correct?
C: Yes
T: Some historians weigh ideas, some weigh economic factors, some give contingency more weight, yes?
C: YEs
T: So you think all these play a role in history, yes?
C: Yes
T: Turn to law review article UVA, please — is this a well-regarded publication? Are you familiar with the author?
C: Can’t confirm the publication or the author,not familiar.
T: (reads statement that marriage will be changed for ALL PEOPLE if same sex marriage becomes law)
Walker ponders, reads law review article.
Thompson argues law review articles are important, in many cases.
walker: Court can take judicial notice, teh witness has stated she’s not familiar with the publication or the author, but we’ll put it in the record, mark it as DIX 1434.
t: Next tab, DIX 1020, Chapman jounral of law and policy by jeffrey reading. Do you know him?
C: Never heard of him
T: he taught at harvard and yale, I thought perhaps you had.
t: (reads article about challenges to trad marriage) Do you agree?
c: I would say it would amplofy marriage, not transform it.
C: (has another law review article) states: expand the meaning and destroy the sanctity of marriage?
OBJECTION: He’s simply reading law review articles.
Walker: It’s appropriate for him to examine this witness by asking if she agrees
(Almost continues without getting an answer, Walker reminds that hemight want the witness to answer)
C: It’s her opinion, and a prediction, I am neutral
T: (another law review article): when people demand recogntion of gay marirage, they ask for the transformation of that good. It will be as big a change as from arranged and unarranged and from poly to mono marriage. Agree?
C: No, I do not.
T: (DIX 1445): DO you know her?
C: I did, not now.
T: :Breathtaking subversive idea!" Agree?
C: No.
T: You don’t haveany views of what has affected the divorce rate in massachusetts do you/
C: No.
t: tab one, your depo in this case, page 199, line 5
I asked: What factors have affected divorce?
You answered: I don’t have any views on what affected the divorce rates in massachusetts. I mentioned it in my report as a concomitant observation, not a causation, is that what you said/
C: Yes, I said that.
T: Another article, by MontySeward, page 327 first graf
"primary purpose, consequences of procreative passion, immediate welfare of children and the often vulnerable mother" Do you agree that society is the ultimate beneficiary of marriage?
C: difficult to answer yes or no, I can’t honestly answer yes or no.
T: Tab 18, DX 1475 article LATimes, David Blankenhorn, starts by saying I am a liberal democrat who opposes same sex marriage. "I reject homophobia, and beleive in the dignity of the child who deserves his/her biological parents"
Is there any other institution as important as marriage to children?
C: FAMILIES are most important, and biological link is NOT the necessary foundation of marriage and families.
witness asks for break, until 10:30, Walker agrees.
I’ll start a new post when we resume.



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Teddy!!
Keep those fingers limber Teddy! You are the MAN!
Good morning, Teddy and puppers.
But who governs the household if there is no godly pecking order imposed upon the spouses? That means that same sex marriage is the fast track to anarchy, where all spouses are equal? Conservatives heads explode.
Exactly!! This is the point about the whole “one man + one woman = marriage” crowd. They also want to maintain patriarchy and dominance of MEN over women while women bear and take care of the kids. 90% of the people who are so rabidly against same-sex marriage are also anti-feminist.
The real revolutionary part of same-sex marriage is that it disrupts the notion that INHERENTLY one member of the married couple must be dominant over the other.
And that is what freaks out conservatives the most, especially the men.
What freaks the conservatives out is that few, if any, gay male marriages would even entertain the pretense of monogamy. Het men are freaked out that we gay men have more sex than they could ever contemplate, and if we get the benefits of civil marriage as well, then what’s the point of being hetero?
In my San Francisco predominantly gay gym sauna yesterday, the sentiment was strongly against trying to shoehorn gay male life choices into the straitjacket of monogamous wedLOCK.
And here lies the supreme irony, that feminists and LGBT are fighting to open up a misogynist institution to participation by gay men and lesbians under the guise of equality.
What makes you think heterosexual marriages are monogamous?? We have very little evidence to support that view.
Most het marriages are predicated upon the promise of monogamy. That is the basis for marriage, ensuring that the progeny has proper sperm so that property can pass to the next male.
Of course not all het marriages are monogamous. What I’m trying to say is that very few gay male marriages are monogamous. That’s just not part of our DNA. Most gay males and lesbians will not have children as part of their marriages in the first instance, hence the need for monogamy is minimized.
Where most het marriages make the pretense and effort at monogamy, most gay male marriages do not, and for good reason.
Again, trying to shoehorn non hetero norms onto LGBT is problematic from the perspective of queer theory. There are those who say that gay males need to tone it down on the wild sex if we expect to get the right to marry.
“Oh no, you didn’t!”
Should we have full civil rights, of course! Should those civil rights be predicated upon losing our queerness? Fuck no.
Most gay males and lesbians will not have children as part of their marriages in the first instance, hence the need for monogamy is minimized.
I take the tongue-in-cheek Ben Franklin view on marriage: ‘all women should marry, but no man’. Trend among lesbians is toward having children. My next door neighbor’s lesbian daughter is on having her third. (Btw, she and her partner are in Seattle.) I don’t see the proportion going down anytime in the future. My town of 32,000 in Boston suburbia had over 50 married same sex couples in 2007, iirc about 40 of them two women and at least 25 of them with children in the public schools. (We have well reputed public schools and a ver strong Yankee don’t-put-up-with-bullshit attitude; we had the David Parker incident and the Phelpses demonstrated our schools and churches.) As far as I’m concerned, gay marriage is principally about lesbians and their families. At least for now. I’m straight and whether gay men marry or choose not to doesn’t seem to me to affect the merits.
The gay men I know who support marriage tend to be over 50. And no one says gay men have to marry before retirement age, or even after. Ama et fac quod vis.
The degree of support for marriage as the fashion of the day amongst younger gay men is what amazes me. Fetishizing what is hip now is going to mean jumping into ill advised relationships which will, if statistics hold, end up poorly.
I’m all for full equality, but don’t see where the constructs around marriage are going to do more good than harm for the bigger picture. Power rules by coopting, offering LGBT the domestication of marriage, and for those who refuse, repression is the rule of the day. The more marriage becomes normative, the more we’ll see crackdowns on non-marriage oriented gay sex. Just because they can.
Who is this “they” you speak of?
Heteros and homophobes?
Sorry, but I’m way less interested in your desire to romp around than I am in seeng that couples who want to marry and provide stability in their lives…and joy…can do so with all the legal respect they might wish for. No one is suggesting that you marry. And, what the hey, half of hetero marriages end in divorce anyway.
Thanks for your unsolicited advice and intervention in our liberation struggle!
The only way we can be free as gay men is to be swaddled in hetero norms.
It’s interesting to read your comments marcos. It seems to me that you live your life one way (non-monogamous) and apparently find it funny to think that other gay men could possibly live differently. I’m a gay man and I’ve tried the open relationship thing, and honestly, it’s just not for me. I don’t like being with other people when I’m in love with someone else, and it worries me to think about my partner being with other people. My partner feels the same way.
You choose to live your life one way that works for you, and others choose to live differently. Marriage may not be important to you, but it is to me. It’s not about some pie-in-the-sky idealism for me, it’s practicality — I want the legal benefits and protections for my relationship.
That made me smile.
Best cartoon on the subject I’ve ever seen. Middle aged man looking up from his newspaper to his wife: “Gay marriage? Haven’t those poor people suffered enough already?”
Someone here one night when the discussion was gay marriage said “let them marry. Why shouldn’t they be miserable like the rest of us.” :)
One reason why this campaign has been so rocky and fraught with failure is that the LGBT base has not been totally on board with the campaign commensurate to the extent to which it is divisive and antagonizes our opponents to challenge us.
Marcos, I can understand your point of view, but I think the testimony from Kris and Sandra yesterday shows that there is a positive alternative to marriage-as-institutional-misogyny.
As a het man, I’m not freaked out by gay men having more sex than I could ever contemplate: I think I would be freaked out if I were expected to have that much sex, with anyone.
But I don’t expect you to conform to my expectations for myself any more than you would expect me to conform to your expectations for yourself – and that, I think, is a sticking point for the Conservatives, they don’t locate a fear of “otherness” in them, they project it onto the other as an external threat.
Or not, I could be wrong.
Yes, lesbians and gays are different from each other! Imagine if heteros were watching porn, and instead of two women getting it on, two men appeared on the screen. Imagine the hilarity that would ensue!
If marriage can be all things to all people, then what’s the point again?
As a queer active in politics, an assertive pro-sex gay man, I encounter all sorts of resentment by ostensibly liberal or progressive het men who apparently feel threatened, probably in their masculinity.
When the people who had the resources to file these lawsuits did so, they ended up putting the ball in the conservative’s court both by putting forth a conservative policy agenda as well as antagonizing conservatives.
The real threat we queers now face is after losing at the ballot box 34 times to zero wins, that paints us as weak, and as we are viewed as politically weak, we are more subject to bashings.
Count me among the grateful pups, Teddy. Your work yesterday was outstanding and much appreciated.
Traditional Marriage didn’t Roman men have the right to sell their wives and kids into slavery no questions asked? Is that the model we want? Roman law has influenced American law.
Before the Imperial Age, in very early Roman times, a typical Roman family included unmarried children, married sons and their families, other relatives, and family slaves.
T
http://rome.mrdonn.org/families.html
Morning Teddy! Been waiting for hours here on the east coast for the trial to start. It’s noon! :)
“But who governs the household if there is no godly pecking order imposed upon the spouses?”
Exactly!
“That means that same sex marriage is the fast track to anarchy, where all spouses are equal? Conservatives heads explode.”
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH! Good!
Teddy, many, many thanks for keeping us informed.
They do seem wedded to the Alpha Chimp model of Authoritarian leadership. Which is funny since that model of government goes back all the way to the Apes. But they deny evolution.
Hmm? maybe evolution hasn’t happened for them yet Conservatives always do try to preserve the past.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/History_of_same-sex_unions
My bold maybe the Christian’s view of Gay Marriage is the historical Abbreviation?
Good Morning Teddy and Firedogs -
ooh boy, Professor Cott appears to be the real deal, studies, peer reviewed, etc.
the other side is going to respond to her with that wingnut welfare queen Blankenhorn . . . . with the likes of Olson or Boies on ‘cross’ ?? sweet jesus that’s gonna be ugly (fun, but ugly)
Teddy Partridge you are the shizz ! – D-Day nailed it by characterizing your work on this as “masterful”
Keep it up, Teddy. This is excellent.
“Men were heads of household, responsible economically for all parts of their household.”
Don’t tell Sarah Palin about that. Might really piss of The First Dude…
Thanks Teddy. Fascinating read. You sure can liveblog.
This morning, Fox ‘news’ had a segment about how Prop 8 supporters are supposedly being harassed by activists.
Jordan Lorence, an attorney with the Alliance Defense Fund, who has argued that the fight against same-sex marriage is a fight to save Christianity and freedom of religion, was the guest.
Lorence’s main point was that people thought they were participating in a political process, but are now instead facing retaliation. The legal proceedings, he seems to think, are retaliation and must be stopped.
The oddest bit in the segment was the Fox interviewer saying something like “Supporters of Prop 8 are defending marriage, while the activists are inflicting violence upon the supporters of Prop 8.” (Paraphrasing from memory.)
It was on between 10:15-10:20 this morning. I think it would be worth putting up the clip with refutation.
Excuse the OT but why is my screen all brown for a long time and then switches? Is it my computer?
It’s how that obnoxious border ad works when you refresh. As I typed earlier, one would think that advertisers would avoid being obnoxious, but one would be wrong. Hopefully it won’t be around much longer.
Thanks. Other sites have this ad and it doesn’t cover the whole page.
It will last for me just until I catch it here and add it into my hosts file. MOST annoying.
Teddy, it reads as though the pro 8 folks are having a tough go of it. Good.
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“one would think that advertisers would avoid being obnoxious”
I’m pretty sure that being obnoxious is in the job description.
Pretty amazing, all the shitty stuff the “state” does to people who want to form families, and the rationale stupid beyond words.
Social control. That is what the Senate is doing to us in the HCR stuff right now, keeping the masses under control.
Yep.
Yep. The masses must be controlled. Of course the mechanisms of control are going to be clumsy, as the elites doing the controlling are typically neurotic and thus punitive. Thus all those rules about losing your citizenship if you marry a foreigner.
Really ironic when you consider the fact that the wingnuts are always bitching about “getting government off the backs of the people,” while basically deifying the presence of government in the most private aspects of a person’s life – marriage, abortion, domestic spying, etc. Idiots.
Teddy you are doing a bang up job!! Keep up the yeomans work Teddy! It has been great reading just wow Teddy Just Wow.
Thank you so much for posting this Teddy. I’m going to be glued to it for the next 3 weeks I can tell.
Loved hearing all the history of marriage from Prof. Cott. Seems like she’s handling herself fairly well on the cross too.
AND THE KILLIN’ GOEZ ON AND ON AND…
Firepup Freedom Fighters:
This trial is politically and socially the most important test of the use of social institutions to control the mass of people and is the test of whether or not our children will live in a country that still holds the promise of equal justice and freedom of opportunity. The arguments about marraige as a misoginistic institution and monogomy and who’s gettin’ the most nukie reflects an ignorance that is unworthy of FDL.
KEEP THE FAITH AND PASS THE AMMUNITION AND KEEP YOUR EYES ON THE TARGET FOR CHRIST’S SAKE!!!
I believe this is the NPR show that they played
http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=1838413
Teddy, thank you so much for doing this. For those of us working and/or unable to be there – this is an INVALUABLE service you are providing. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
AND THE KILLIN GOEZ ON AND ON AND…
Firepup freedom Fighters:
“Families are most important and biological link is not the foundation of marraige and families.”
Professor Cott just won the game…this is what it’s all about, this and the fact that if Prop8 is thrown out politics in this country will never be the same.
Wake up Firepups history is bein’ made while we banter about who does what to whom and for how much…Jesus sometimes I think we get so enamored of our socks that we forget to put on our fuckin’ shoes!!
KEEP THE FAITH AND PASS THE AMMUNITION…HISTORY IS ON OUR SIDE!!
I’m sure this has been said in the comments elsewhere, but the defense has really boxed themselves in a tough position by claiming the goal of marriage is to protect biological children of a heterosexual union. Society has accepted adoption and now IVF babies as part of the family institution, and there is not any intellectual difference between hetero couples who can’t have babies “naturally” and homosexual couples other than appearance to justify the government making a distinction between the two types of couples.
very good point.
Yep, this is why gay marriage is allowed here in Iowa I think. I listened to the arguments on the radio where the defense made children a cornerstone of their argument. The judges just didn’t buy it.
I like the point that traditionally mixed families were common, as in the case of the lesbian couple that were on the stand yesterday. It just makes the whole argument that society is trying to protect children by making sure they don’t get married rather silly.
Wow, Teddy! More power to you! Nobly carrying on the tradition of FDL and at the crux of history!
That cartoon was in the New Yorker.
“Of course not all het marriages are monogamous. What I’m trying to say is that very few gay male marriages are monogamous. That’s just not part of our DNA. Most gay males and lesbians will not have children as part of their marriages in the first instance, hence the need for monogamy is minimized.”
That’s funny, most, if not all the gay/lesbian couples I know are monogamous. They’ve all been together for years/decades and most don’t have kids. I happen to live in Seattle so maybe there’s a larger population of same-sex couples to meet. But saying outright that “few gay male marriages are monogamous” is a bit much to swallow. I’d like to see the numbers on that stat, if there are any.
I live in San Francisco and have been together with my better half for 20 years, met right after the quake in ’89, and have been together without having to suffer under the shackles of monogamy. Whenever I mention the idea of monogamous gay marriage in gay company, snickers abound.
What are you saying? Your defensiveness gets in the way sometimes.
Snickers? Are you saying that your friends can’t imagine that or something else? I’m having a really hard time understanding you. This is a diverse crowd. We don’t all live in your perview. Help me by communicating in a more broad way.
Are you suggesting that the fight for marriage makes it that we SHOULD be imagining something else as queers, such as domestication under wedlock?
No, gay men are gay men, and when you have two of them together, that makes for a lot of testosterone and being realists, rather than idealists, we know that imposing monogamy on that is just begging for trouble.
This is what happens when conservatives in our movement are allowed to set the agenda due to their excess resources which does not have broad political legitimacy on the ground amongst those for whom they’re allegedly acting.
TO my mind, this conservative take over of LGBT liberation is to be challenged because it would see us liberated to the extent that we play like hets rather than to demand that society grant us equal status precisely because we are different.
No.
No.
And, you should listen and contemplate once in a while.
I don’t appreciate your patronizing.
Whatever, dude.
Indeed. Can I use that on the next “hetero supporter” who insists that I’m homophobic because I don’t go ga ga over marriage?
What part of a broad and diverse community’s “self determination” being checked by wealthy homosexuals are you not getting? Do you really think that a whole community’s agenda should be set by those rich enough to file lawsuits while the community remains unprotected against job and housing discrimination? I thought progressives had problems with pay-to-play politics. I guess that so long as it involves exterminating promiscuous gay male culture, all bets are off.
What part of selling out what it means to be queer on the altar of hetero approval are you not getting? You can only have equal rights as a gay man to the extent that you confrom to hetero norms?
Fuck that.
Go liberate yourself. You are fighting with the wrong minds and hearts.
Bless you and your personal struggle.
Maybe you just know nice, less fucked up people? I know some very monogamous gay couples in LA. Go figure. Like attracts like is what I’ve experienced.
I know a nice monogamous married gay couple. With a kid who’s now college age. (Adopted, and also their former foster kid.)
We all know many LGBT with kids, the issue is whether that is normative, especially as applies to gay men, or not.
The answer is no, and as the answer is no, public policy should address the general case before it addresses the specific case.
Clearly, there’s a lot I’m not getting.
Oh, Thank Goodness. You are just being personal and mean.
Fuck that.
I believe it’s most important to note that when Lawrence vs. Texas was decided, negating all anti-”sodomy” laws nationwide, Justice Antonin Scalia said in his dissent, that this would mean that same-sex marriage was just around the corner. At the time I thought he was simply being hysterical. But the sick old ‘phobe was right.
If we win this case Sclaia will do everything in his far-from-inconsiderable power to overturn it.
And, like Bowers v. Hardwick, we will see the court come around with a Lawrence v. Texas as soon as the public does.
You’re assuming that Justice Scalia will have by that time departed to meet the Big Invisible Bi-Polar Daddy Who Lives in The Sky.
Oh, Mr/Ms Modperson, since we’re in touch here, can you tell me if Teddy’s coming back here after the break or will there be another thread, since lunch break is coming up soon?
In all sincerity. Thank you, in advance
I’m turning 63 next month, and I’ve been “openly gay”) since the year George Clooney was born. I became a gay activist right afte Stonewall, working on the Media Committee with the late, great Vito Russo. Mariage was nowhere on the horizon in those days, and I must say it wasn’t on my mind or that of my lover the better part of the 38 years we have spent together. But that all changed in 2004 when Gavin Newsom (San Francisco’s most playful wit) suddenly decided to issue marriage licenses to gay and lesbian couples. They were all rescinded by the state — and the Great Debate was off to the races. But in thos heady days there was one picture that appeared in the Chronicel, that I’ve been looking for ever since. It was two guys, resplendent in ther tuxedos, rushing down the steps of city hall to greet their frends having just excahnged vows.The had big smiles on their faces and were carrying in their hands platest of weddign cake with forks stuck in them.
Now THAT’S a party I want to go to.
It seems to me that there might be some folks here with really closed minds. I know, it’s really hard not to. Ha! Once you know something that no one else could possibly fathom, what else are you going to do by rant?
If you’re happy and you know it, clap your hands.
Here’s my partner (left) and me in 2004:
http://www.flickr.com/photos/28798706@N05/4269725988/
When it was illegal, we got married in order to push the envelope and break the law. But we’ve got to remember that it was Newsom’s self serving opportunism which led him to take that “selfless” action (and document it with video, hmm) and that was the legal action which culminated in Prop 8′s passage.
Note the fundie Christians on City Hall steps.
Sure, 2004 was wonderful and it marked the tipping point of LGBT grassroots support for same sex marriage. But it also was the tipping point of the reaction from the right, with 11 ballot measures in 2004, including one in Ohio that tipped the presidency.
So here we are, living under Prop 8 and the wreckage of the second Bush term (those of us in SF are still living with a lobotomized Mayor), throwing federal hail mary passes and hoping for the best.
The reaction to all of that was a further pile on marriage, to the extent that such a campaign belies the realities of gay male life in favor of packaging us as worthy recipients of equal rights, all on het terms, of course.
I think it’s just terribly sad that some are using this trial issue for a grand standing moment to make a comment like Marcos’ last statement at #69
Sad.
Let’s put it this way, when progressives see their agenda short circuited by conservatives like Joe Lieberman, then go apeshit.
But when gay men see our agenda short circuited by our own Joe Liebermans, those who would have us domesticated and controlled rather than living as free gay men, those who would take the “sex” out of “homosexual,” apparently our “hetero allies” are all on the side of the Joe Lieberman’s.
And this is how liberal and progressive heteros dispatch homophobia and feel good about it.
We find ourselves at this trial for reasons, reasons that “our side” made happen by picking fights that they lost. As a gay man, I will not stand by while internet anonymous people, probably heteros, determine that my voice as a gay voice is not legitimate.
All I’m getting from your comments is that you object to any kind of stable relationship that you can’t walk out on at any moment.
And you don’t seem to understand that others may not want that.
What I object to is recasting homosexuality based on hetero norms, especially when pushed on gays by hets.
I’ve been with the same man for 20 years, bought a house, built a life and remained safe and promiscuous.
At the end of the day, homoSEXuality is about homoSEX, who practices it and how society deals with that.
I don’t understand how you being able to marry forces you or any other gay male to adhere to any sort of “hetero norm”. There is no part of marriage as a civil contract that forces monogamy. It grants rights and privileges to a partner who you value above others.
It seems to me that your relationship marcos may actually benefit greatly from the rights and privileges marriage grants. Wouldn’t you like your partner to be able to visit you in the hospital and inherit your property and receive social security benefits upon your death?
Politics is in four dimensions, the static moment that we see plus the change in state from instance to instance. As the complexity of political reality unfolds, it impacts on physical reality which in turn changes political reality.
First off, the marriage trajectory has held the LGBT movement hostage for the past 20 years because, like similarly situated gays in the military, is a conservative project furthered by wealthier and more conservative gays as well as economically moderate/conservative “hetero allies” like Clinton (gays in the military on MTV) and Newsom (Prop 8).
Against that backdrop rest housing and job discrimination protections which have advanced in the coastal and most big states but languished federally, largely because there is not a funding base that is going to demand an end to job and housing discrimination. Those with resources to fund political campaigns are already financially and otherwise secure and don’t need to compete in the job and housing market.
So as the political trajectory of conservative initiatives has been dominant, the fabric of political space time has bent to accommodate the shift in political mass. And this has had the effect to both antagonize the right wing while asserting marriage as the norm by furthering a narrative that is centered around marriage as an objective.
And with the elevation of marriage so comes the diminishment of non-monogamy.
Just like the repeated defeats at the ballot box send a flashing green light reminding everyone that we’re second class citizens and lowers the bar to bashing.
Actions have consequences, and to the extent that the interests of those taking actions are at odds with the consequences visited on those facing the consequences, there is going to be political friction.
As with marriage and military versus housing and jobs, we see that the better off have no problems getting around the moral restrictions that their campaigns bring with, no, the working class queers are left to clean up the mess and deal with the new moralism.
You’re very invested in gay counter-culture. I agree with that as the alternative to what it represents a response to, i.e. heterosexism and the culture of the closeted. But if younger generations of gay people than yourself want to assimilate into the mainstream and mainstream life goals on equitable terms, as they seem to want to, because they can- why should I oppose that? Rebellions and counter-cultures fade away when what they came into existence to oppose fades away, when their relevance and the need they exist to meet declines. It’s hard to accept, but there’s no shame in accepting it.
I still think there’s a basic factuality that in the mean men will tend to a certain amount of sexual partners and women in the mean to a smaller number (around a half or a third) as many across their lifetimes. As quality of life and economic means for average people improves that number initially goes up dramatically (as happened in the 60s/70s/80s in the U.S.) but then stalls (80s/90s) and starts to decline back toward some baseline. The institutions and nominal laws don’t have very much to do with that- they creak and groan, and what governments do is kind of arbitrary and mostly look the other way. China is that upswing phase, for example, despite having a formally highly puritanical public culture. Saudia Arabia…
Freedom and liberation have to encapsulate both the right to assimilate as well as the ability to not. TO the extent that campaigns have the side effects of promoting one of those over the other, there is going to be political friction, and that is not the position of strength on which to base an ambitious and controversial campaign like same sex marriage.
That is the prime reason why the same sex marriage campaign has seen a record of 0 wins and 33 losses at the ballot box, proponents forgot to read The Art of War and thought, like everything else in their lives, they could just throw money at this and buy it. Didn’t quite work out that way, huh?
It is only a “counterculture” to you because you’re not gay, I’d presume. You say that gay promiscuity is a bug, I say its a feature.
No one’s forcing you to assimilate to mainstream values like monogamy, having children, whatever. You fear that may yet be. And on the other hand, why should your gay Americans assimilate to your particular notion of what their lives should be like?
I think nothing in particular about gay promiscuity. It simply is a fact. Absent AIDS it’s like heterosexual couples having sex while using contraceptives effectively, in my opinion- it has no consequences for public life that I know of. I just don’t see it as outside sexual behavior patterns in society at large. A substantial number of gay people have a number of partners that are far off the mean- either very much higher, or (among the closeted) very much lower. A substantial number of gay people are within the so-called normal heterosexual range of partners lifetime currently, i.e. 95% between 3 and 12-15 with a mean of 6-7. The relative numbers for homosexual people seem to me have co-varied along with those of heterosexuals as far as I can tell, e.g. a peaking of the number of different sexual partners among those active in the early 1980s.
People didn’t forget to read the Art Of War and whatever else for gay marriage legalization. It’s that extreme manipulations and PR don’t really matter. The math is very simple and brutal on gay marriage, which is that the national support for its legalization models as 1% increase per year and the zero support point is 1968. IOW, take the number of years since 1968, convert to a percentage, and that’s where the country as a whole is. It’s generally about 10% behind the national Democratic percentage for a state, though Obama got a lot of votes from nonpartisan voters which mucks up the rule- working off Kerry percentages with a 4% correction to 2008 is better. California is consistently about 8% ahead of national numbers, so it predicted to 48% support in 2008. (Polling there was 46% in favor in 2006, 47% in 2007, opposition to Prop 8 in 2008 was 48%.) Maine likewise fell within a point of the national Democratic percentage minus ten approximation. But it also works pretty well in Texas in 2004 (pro-gay marriage vote 24% on low turnout, Kerry 38%) and iirc the Michigan and Oregon bans as well.
Long story short: on trend gay marriage gets to 50% nationally in 2018, will win in California in ’12 with 52%. Provided advocates make it a democratic showdown, i.e. stand up confidently on the merits, put in equal effort, and don’t muddle things or generate pissed off new opposition by doing unnecessary insulting or anti-democratic things. Washington State, 50% support in 2012-15 working off memory (haven’t seen polling about it recently).
The other gay rights issues, the ones that concern you more, are all essentially about whether gay sex, aka sodomy, inherently constitutes a moral offense. That has pretty similar math in 1% per year trend but the zero set point is at 1941. Stuff like repealing DADT, the figurehead issue for the whole suite of discriminations, polls at 68/32ish nationally. All I can say is that you have moderate Republican and moderate and conservative Democratic cowardice to thank for a lack of progress. They do agree with you that all the discrimination is crap. But most of them still take their orders from the hardcore Right and reactionaries. When one of those two latter factions cracks (and it will be the classical Right before the reactionaries) and gives up on preventing gay equality it will all happen fast, I think.
The reason I bring up counter-culture is that you are particularly upset about ‘flyover country’. It’s not all as hostile to gay rights as it appears, as you know, but for some reason all the agitations there rarely work. In my view the opposition in the South is just ideologically hostile and outward forms don’t matter- might as well offend if you’re not given a real chance. But the Midwest works differently, such that appearances matter. In the rural and suburban Midwest there’s a code of outward conformity- unwillingness to irritate each other, doing one’s share unostentatiously but reliably, and tolerating a locally set level of incompetence- which has to do with the facts of rural life far from the cities and needing reliable neighbors during the long periods in which the world is sterile and harsh and unyielding (be it the weather or economics). Violating that is often more upsetting to people there than sexual orientation.
When issues of assimilation clash against queerness, queerness always loses and assimilation always wins because assimilation has power at its back. Affirmative action demands that more vulnerable interest in a progressive coalition get special protections from predictable consequences of a campaign. Those who expect to purchase political victory through their means could really care less about the predictable negative consequences of their actions.
I guess that you’re unfamiliar with law enforcement’s reach into policing gay male sex the acts of identifying partners and hooking up in person, this has somewhat changed with the internet. The prime vehicle of homophobia has been cop harassment at places like gay bars and cruising grounds.
Around the world, gay men do not conform to heteo monogamous norms to an extent that most heteros cannot even comprehend. In Europe they manage to have both marriage and more interesting manifestations of queerdom even though they are free. Apparently, the logic here is that the only proof that gay men are free is when they stop acting like gay men.
On Prop 8, Support for Prop 8 was in the upper 50s six months out and the slackers on the campaign thought they were in for a cake walk. Based on that, we’ll need to wait until there is a something like a 20% cushion of support prior to returning to the ballot.
What is worse is that this fight was picked, and it was picked prior to the desired fruit being ripe. That is an error in judgment, in joining a contest where you are weak and your opponent strong and well organized.
Lawrence v. Texas mooted out criminal sodomy based on straight v. gay discriminant.
DADT is not a figurehead issue in the gay community, it only impacts that sliver of individuals who choose to join the military according to polls, that would be job and housing discrimination protections. The reason why DADT has any purchase is, again, that interests with resources, aided by het allies, promoted the issue.
I can’t wait for our leadership that loses to pick “Gays in the CIA” as the next vehicle for forestalling any progress, to be sure that we can waterboard if we want to as well. I’m sure that my hetero allies here in straight progressive land will be front and center on that shit.
By the flyover, I meant states that do not have housing and job protections enshrined at the state level. By implication, if the state is a laggard, then that sends signals that discrimination is okay. I grew up in Texas, please don’t tell me what it is like to be gay in a homophobic place, okay?
The fact is that with limited resources, triage decisions are made about what campaigns advance at what time. Those triage decisions are made by those who have the resources and power to make those calls, and they are made not based on sentiment amongst the community rather sentiment amongst those with resources to push.
The record at the federal level has one win: hate crimes. State by state, we’ve seen a record of 0-33 before the voters. After those defeats, we’ve seen housing and job protections languishing in Congress.
Not only has marriage failed, it has managed to take much of the viable LGBT agenda with it and threatens to eliminate non assimilationist queers from the family picture.
How many people are going to lose their jobs or not get hired because they’re gay and there is no federal line in the sand because the marriage campaign has diminished LGBT political capital?
How many people are going to lose their homes or not be able to buy or lease because they’re gay and there is no federal line in the sand because the marriage campaign has diminished LGBT political capital?
There are real trade offs here, trade offs that will crush the lives of real people, trade offs that a marriage only perspective cannot afford.
My bet is that there is a deal within both parties to meter out progress on the hot button issues drop by drop so that they can continue to be used to control interest groups. After all, what would the HRC do if it were to win on the substantive policy battles, I mean seriously, who needs gala banquets once we’ve won?
Did I mention gay counter culture?
You do seem to take a very masculine approach to the problem. You concentrate very much on the gay counter culture, promiscuity (almost stereotype).
But isn’t it the L G B T movement? Could it be that those other members of the group might like the idea of being conventional and living within the mainstream “hetero” values?
Well, yes, I am a gay man I do favor the masculine even though I’m a feminist politically.
I’d really take exception with the characterization of promiscuous gay men as being part of a counterculture, something that can be carved away from “mainstream” gay culture that is allegedly centered around monogamous marriage and discarded.
Gay male promiscuity is more or less the norm for many, many gay men worldwide that I’ve seen.
So in order for homosexual men to be liberated, we have to give up homosexuality? Uh huh.
No, there are issues involving how the L, G, B and T “movements” come together on any sort of queer unity, all sorts of contradictions. Instead of asserting that those contradictions be resolved in favor of the expedience of the marriage campaign, how about sussing them out and trying to figure out how to best accommodate the wide variety of diversity that characterizes queer culture?
The HRC veal pen is what got us to the point we’re at now, and for a forum which is keen to the notion of transcending the veal pen, I am amused at how closely our “het allies” would cleave to the most elite of all veals in the pen, the HRC were it no so hetero imperialistic.
You talk with disdain about how the marriage movement is Oh for the ballot box. Yet it has had some successes with both courts and a couple of legislatures.
Did the Civil Rights movement in the ’40s, ’50s and ’60s achieve all goals immediately. It seems here that even with those defeats, there is an education that says LGBT = Human and deserving of all rights the same? Isn’t that the goal and every little bit does in fact help to achieve that goal?
OH, for heaven*s sake, marcos.
If you do not like marriage, do not get married. Hell, do not even fraternize with married people.
If you want to be promiscuous, by all means, cavort with any like-minded individual you can find.
It is your life. But it is ONLY *your* life. You cannot write the rules for other people. And it is really unattractive to put anyone down who aspires to something you do not personally believe in.
Perhaps you are here for less-than-transparent reasons. Perhaps your goal is to make those pursuing a gay lifestyle (as you purport to be) look bad. Because frankly, you are making anyone who agrees with you look very obnoxious. And you seem to be spreading the bigotry that gay persons are promiscuous and that promiscuity is their only value. You do not seem to be interested in any other aspect of this issue.
This is about freedom. And it is not necessarliy neat.
And it is not ALL about YOU.
On a more positive note I really enjoyed the history of marriage testimony!!!
And I wonder about the rights of orphans? It seems the defense leaves no space for families to be non-biological. So I guess the orphans are out of luck. :-(
Thanks Teddy! I do hope none of my #86 offends you at all, in any *inartful* way. You are officially an expert liveblogger!!!!
In re: the unequal status of wives in early US: “Highly assymetrical bargain, one we see now as very unequal.”
That is largely true, I grant. However, I’m struck by how many states (particularly in New England) included in deeds a mandatory legal PRIVATE questioning by the magistrate of the wife as to whether she of her own free will consented to this land transaction. So there were critical and curious exceptions to this general rule of inequality.