Andrew Sullivan breaks the news, based on an email from his friend Anderson Cooper, who gave him permission to publish. Sully sets the stage:
Last week, Entertainment Weekly ran a story on an emerging trend: gay people in public life who come out in a much more restrained and matter-of-fact way than in the past. In many ways, it’s a great development: we’re evolved enough not to be gob-smacked when we find out someone’s gay. But it does matter nonetheless, it seems to me, that this is on the record. We still have pastors calling for the death of gay people, bullying incidents and suicides among gay kids, and one major political party dedicated to ending the basic civil right to marry the person you love. So these “non-events” are still also events of a kind; and they matter. The visibility of gay people is one of the core means for our equality.
Visibility does matter. Closeted public figures legitimate the sense that there is shame, or stigma, or embarrassment, in being gay or lesbian or bisexual or transgender. Coming out, even when public figures claim a right to privacy or that as reporters, their own lives do not matter, is important. It can be a one-day event with a press release filled with positive language about a life lived happily and well (Neil Patrick Harris), or it can be ‘dealt with’ in paragraph 13 of an interview (Zachary Quinto, Jim Parsons), or it can happen as it did for Anderson: a long, thoughtful email between friends who are both public figures, crafted to illuminate the topic and for likely public release.
Cooper begins:
Andrew, as you know, the issue you raise is one that I’ve thought about for years. Even though my job puts me in the public eye, I have tried to maintain some level of privacy in my life. Part of that has been for purely personal reasons. I think most people want some privacy for themselves and the people they are close to.
But I’ve also wanted to retain some privacy for professional reasons. Since I started as a reporter in war zones 20 years ago, I’ve often found myself in some very dangerous places. For my safety and the safety of those I work with, I try to blend in as much as possible, and prefer to stick to my job of telling other people’s stories, and not my own. I have found that sometimes the less an interview subject knows about me, the better I can safely and effectively do my job as a journalist.
Despite this understandable need for privacy — it’s important to remember, in this context, that Anderson Cooper has been part of a very public family since birth. Anyone whose mom’s childhood becomes an NBC miniseries is going to have a complicated relationship with fame, the public, and privacy, especially when there have been not always happy images to portray. But he does let us in:
The fact is, I’m gay, always have been, always will be, and I couldn’t be any more happy, comfortable with myself, and proud.
I have always been very open and honest about this part of my life with my friends, my family, and my colleagues. In a perfect world, I don’t think it’s anyone else’s business, but I do think there is value in standing up and being counted. I’m not an activist, but I am a human being and I don’t give that up by being a journalist.
Congratulations, AC360. Now back to work, as you would certainly wish.




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People may not understand this, and some might argue they don’t care and it doesn’t matter. That’s okay, then, you can ignore this news and this post. But as Harvey Milk discovered when he got letters and phone calls from young people all over the world when he got into politics, and got famous for it, it does matter.
It matters to kids who think they are all alone, who are abused in their families, who are sent to reparative therapy, who are kicked out of the house. And, quite frankly, it matters to adults as well. I am much happier watching AC knowing that he’s honest with me about who he is; I’m more likely to trust his reporting, especially on LGBT issues, if I know he’s not ashamed of who he is.
And, honestly, Gloria Vanderbilt’s son — who sought and has succeeded in a very public job — complaining about his right to privacy always rang a little hollow. If Gloria Vanderbilt’s son wanted privacy, there are ways to live his life that do not involve being on television three hours every weekday.
As Gloria Vanderbilt’s son, he has always known that.
Agreed on both points. My normal reaction to somebody “coming out” is normally “Who cares? He’s still the same person he was yesterday”. I know being hetro I’m supposed to be outraged and demand whomever resign, go into hiding and change his name but I could just never see it.
Boxturtle (Suspect’s the congreaasional closet is a lot fuller than I suspect it is!)
Hopefully, he won’t get relegated to reporting only on “Gay issues”. But other than direct discrimination, it seems like my gay friends have the same issues I do. Might do some good for people to see that.
Boxturtle (Odd how similar we are, if it weren’t for the GOPers I’d consider gays human too!)
Good post, and not to sound ??? but I thought Anderson Cooper “came out” a long time ago. Not kidding. I guess I just thought it was common knowledge that he is gay. I know it’s certainly been “discussed” (not in a bad or demeaning way) in the media before.
Like BoxTurtle, I could care less, but I do also get that there is a positive impact for the younger generations who are starting to learn about their sexual orientation.
Interesting.
He’s correct, it ISN’T anyone else’s business and those who would shun, disdain or eschew Cooper on the basis of his sexuality, are teabaggers or idiots (ok, that’s redundant) and don’t deserve to live. Rock on, Anderson Cooper.
“That poor Kathy Griffin!”
– someone’s mom, right now.
Pam describes AC as “out socially but professionally closeted.” Which sounds right to me. Everyone knew, and I think he knew everyone knew. But when asked, he would say, “I don’t discuss my private life,” or something similar to how Jim Parsons (“The Big Bang”) held out for a long time.
Big cover article in Entertainment Weekly! (I know, I know….) about the New Coming Out: getting an interview with a journalist who allows his subject to say, “As a gay man….” like Jim Parsons did; or finding a journalist who will permit the statement “my same-sex partner and our kids” as Matt Bomer did. They are calling this “paragraph 13 coming out.” It’s not the focus of the story, and as a coming-out, it avoids the “Duh!” reaction AC is getting today.
We knew, AC. We all knew.
He’s got two hours on CNN. If they leave him in place but relegate his coverage to “gay issues only” that would be wonderful, actually. If they remove him, there will be a giant shitstorm.
And I have not seen his mid-day chat show (ABC? syndication? who knows!) but I think part of today’s reasoning is that he’s probing other peoples’ personal lives and has even less of a right to a zone of privacy because of that.
It’s great news nonetheless. I think he is about the best journalist our current bought-and-paid-for system can create, perhaps because of his immense personal wealth. I mean, mom can’t have spent ALL that money, and she was the Richest Little Girl in the World at 18 months!
I see. Thanks for the clarification. That makes sense.
Confess that I didn’t know about Jim Parsons’ orientation, however, so color me shocked! shocked I say! (absolute snark, of course). So ya larns sumthin new ev’ry day!!
Delighted to hear that AC is proud – he should be. People have the right to not talk about their private lives but everyone who steps out of the confining closet helps another young person feel accepted and cared about. Good for Anderson.
I thought he came out a long time ago as well.
Heavens to Murgatroyd!
All of this fuss and feathers over alternative sexual orientations.
If you’re gay, it’s perfectly ok.
If you’re straight, you took a different gate.
End of story!
Thanks Teddy and recommended.
I have to admit, ol’ Andy’s been dodging the question so much, that when I saw the headline, I assumed that this was a “what if?” post, that Teddy had crafted a deliberately-misleading headline to discuss the impact of Anderson potentially doing what (it seemed) he would never, ever do.
Well, good for him, however belatedly it might be.
So which famous out but not person is up next? Jodie Foster?
I didn’t think Cooper was closeted, I thought his orientation was common knowledge.
I just think he’s great at his job, shows more physical courage in danger zones than an army of superheros, and seems to have a good social conscience and a fun sense of humor ( I still remember him trying not to crack up on camera when the Tea Party folks started calling themselves “tea baggers”).
What more could you want on your teevee?
It’s like Ellen DiGeneres being the face of Cover Girl, a beautiful woman is a beautiful woman, no matter who she loves.
I always thought living a not that well concealed lie while trying to report the truth was a bit strange. Anyway, good for him. I don’t think his credibility is going to take a hit, or at least I hope not.
I remember how he lost it, in a good way, on the air when he covered Hurricane Katrina in 2005.
Well done, AC!
Well, what ya know, even gay people can be fake journalists.
Jim Parsons, who starred in the recent Broadway revival of Larry Kramer’s The Normal Heart, “came out” in paragraph 13 of a NYT interview with the phrase, “As a gay man….” in response to a question about what the play means to him. As I recall, the question was meant (I think) generationally and not orientationally.
It did not make very big news for the reasons you imply in your comment. He previously had said “I don’t discuss my private life” but since then has talked about his partner of 12 years.
I think it was back in the 70′s when Harvey Milk said, You know it would be a really great idea if we all came out.
I’m glad Anderson finally got around to it. Better late than never.
The lines are clearly blurring in this century, but the definitive statment “I am gay” had not been uttered. He’d been photographed in public with his (hot) boyfriend in their neighborhood and vacationing overseas. And he’s never denied it, although I can’t recall his ever being asked.
Because everyone knew, and knew his rules about a zone of privacy, it never came up. I mean, wouldn’t New Years Eve be a riot of “So, Anderson, are you seeing anyone?” from Kathy Griffin otherwise?
You continue to ascribe motive to me that I have never exhibited at FDL. There are other ways to get attention around here.
It’s interesting: the morality around being out has changed through the years. In Linda Hirshman’s great book, Victory, she relates the moral dilemma gay men had in the 1950s and 1960s: should you hide from another gay man that you are a gay man?
Later, of course, it became about keeping another person’s secrets.
Nowadays, it seems to be we know the closet is an immoral place, in the shame and stigma implied.
But there is also this new sense: how can one live a truthful life, to the “public” whoever that is and on what scale, if one is living a lie, or even a half-truth? And how do people one knows, privately, who are also public persons, conduct themselves when one is around, given the special snowflake status one has claimed for oneself, in-but-out?
This was a secret? Next you’ll tell me Drudge isn’t out.
This is basically the same way George Takei was closeted, to my understanding — he’d never hid his orientation but never officially come out either, until there was a political need for it that struck home. I’m glad Anderson is in the same place now and hope he continues to use his position well to make the world better.
“That’s so Takei!”
He’s an excellent field reporter but I didn’t like his reporting on Syria at all. It’s good that he came out to everyone who didn’t already know. Heteros that like him will have to confront their feelings.
I don’t think CNN would relegate him to reporting on gay issues, they didn’t do that to Don Lemon. He does what he likes it seems.
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Just to show us how wrong they can be in reporting the news CNN is still reporting that AC is straight. ; )