OK…so we now have another in yet a seemingly endless stream of women from elite backgrounds, who are playing at the top of their respective games, who are telling other women a) how to live their home and work lives, and b) that they are not trying hard enough. This one is from Katharine Weymouth, who is the publisher and chief executive of The Washington Post.
“I see it all the time. Women are often meeker in meetings and afraid to ask for raises and promotions. I’ve told countless female colleagues to stop apologizing when they ask for more. It’s not personal, it’s business.”
As a character played by Sean Connery in “The Untouchables” said (numerous times throughout the film), “What are YOU prepared to do?”
Ms Weymouth, if you, as CEO of the newspaper have not put any programs into place to help women, THEN YOU HAVE NOTHING TO SAY TO OTHER WOMEN WHO ARE NOT OF THE ELITES. ZIP IT.
Ms Weymouth, if you, as CEO of the newspaper, have not put any programs into place to help people who have dependents for whom they must care, THEN YOU HAVE NOTHING TO SAY; ZIP IT.
Ms Weymouth, if you, as CEO of the newspaper, have not put any programs into place to help people who do not come from money, who do not come from the elites, who do not come from elite college and university educations, to get opportunities to rise, to get educations, to get out of the ‘non-elite ghetto’, THEN YOU HAVE NOTHING TO SAY; ZIP IT.
We have had at least 30 years of this sort of ‘you aren’t trying hard enough,’ ‘you aren’t dressing correctly,’ ‘you aren’t sacrificing enough,’ ‘if only you would….’ garbage out there. Women have it hard enough just on the basis of gender. If we try to work in male-dominated fields such as high tech or programming, we are looking to end up with violent threats in our emails, along with the usual garbage comments about how we dress, how much we weigh, and how we look. The media is filled with images and stories which send one message: Women are never smart enough, attractive enough, good looking enough, thin enough, hard working enough, aggressive enough, not aggressive enough.
It is no wonder that smart young women decide that none of this…is worth it.